How many times have you decided to choose to be with other people, when really you should have stayed at home and been by yourself?
I know when I have chosen to go out rather than choosing to stay at home, I have gotten a headache afterwards, or been really exhausted the next day.
If you have chosen to be with people, there might be a need to be engaging with others.
You may put on masks to help you cope such as:
- “funny you”
- “entertaining you”
- “wise you”
- “parent you”
- “party person you”
- “friend you”
These masks have a part to play in your life, but not when they are at the expense of choosing to just be you.
By choosing to stay in, you may well find that being on your own is rejuvenating. Sometimes being on your own allows you to just be you and that is why a little voice inside your head says, “no thanks” to an invitation to be with people. However, at times we can ignore the voice. Our close partners generally are the only other people who really allow us to just be ourselves.
So next time you are asked to join people, tune into yourself and listen, hear what is right for you and ask “Do I stay or do I go now?”
Take time to just be with yourself, it is a great thing to do.
Enjoying some solitary time Tracy x