I have liked to achieve things on my own. It has given me over the years a real sense of achievement and a feeling of success. By not asking for help, it has actually made my life more difficult than it needed to be.
Why do we do these things to ourselves? Is it because we want the recognition? Is it because we were brought up with beliefs like:
- you have to make it on your own, or
- your weak if you ask for help.
I got to thinking about this, because it is not only me, that doesn’t like to ask for help. I see it in others. We are forced to swallow our pride to get some help. There is an exception for most of us, we do ask for help from the people that are close to us.
So let’s think about asking for help a little differently. Let’s think about it as, a process of co-creation.
When I make a meal, I am co creating with the food. I cant make a meal without food, so I really need the foods help.
I am a qualified chef so I don’t use recipes very often (only for baking, because you need a recipe for that) but for those of you who do use recipes to make a meal, you are co-creating with food and the author of the recipe. Your getting help. Like the picture above, I am co-creating with the food to make a meal for my Dad. I am helping my Dad.
When I write this blog, I am being inspired by an aspect of life that I feel is important to share and so I am co-creating with a divine source to write down my inspirations to help others bring balance into their lives. I am being helped and I am helping others.
How much easier would life be, if we all asked for help when we needed it. You know you cant make a baby without help…..!!
A coffee with friends sharing ideas, is an act of co-creation. They are helping you get clear about what to do and you are helping them.
So stop being independent and ask to co-create your life, it will flow so much easier if you do.
Enjoy Tracy xx