Real friends – who are they?

Do you have real friends in your life?
Do you recognize the real friends from the acquaintances?
Do you recognize the friends from the duty relationships?
Do you recognize the friends from the people who just need something from you?

Real friends aren’t around every day, sometimes you don’t see them for days, months, or even years, but when you do see them, it is like as though you saw them yesterday.

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Real friends don’t blame, they don’t try and make you feel guilty. Real friends accept you for you.

Real friends love you, listen to you, laugh with you and you with them.

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Life is simple with real friends.
Relationships flow with real friends.

If you are forcing friendships, feeling guilty in your friendships, feeling unbalanced in your friendships, then these are not real friends. It might be something to think about….

I have a few real friendships that have lasted time and distance.

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I treasure them. Yes I can only count them on 1 hand and I am happy about that, as they are real friends.
Tracy xx

Reflection – what is it a mirror to?

You know I have found life can be fabulous, full of joy and happiness and at other times, life is full of turbulence that can rock me.

It had me wondering, is it me, or is it something else? If it is something else why does it affect me?

When we are in an emotional place. Life reflects a distorted view of us. A bit like the fun mirrors at a carnival.

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Now the question is that because of us?
Sometimes it can be, within us when we are not in a place of peace and harmony, we can send that turbulent ripple of energy out into the world. Our mirror to the world curves. But what might be more true is that the ripples of emotions from others who aren’t in peace and harmony touch the surface of us. We are standing in front of their curved surface. At times we can take on those distorted views from others as being true for us.

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It is a bit like the wash of a boat going past you. It can wash over you and around you, or it can tip you out of your boat.

So how do you stop this turbulence around you. Well you can’t, but what you can do is find that sense of peace and harmony within you and reflect that.

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Remember, as a ripple goes past you, come back into that place peace and harmony.

Mirroring myself instead of others…
Tracy xx

Patience – can you buy it at the supermarket?

I said to my Mother once years ago, “Mum I wasn’t born with patience?”  She said “no you weren’t!”  So armed with that information, I wandered to the supermarket and scanned the shelves to buy patience?  You can buy many things in life, new outfit, food, headache tablet to relieve pain, can you buy patience?

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I hate to say it but the answer is no – you cant buy patience.

But you can find it.

Have I found it?

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Yes, no and sometimes.

When I was younger I didn’t have patience, couldn’t find it at all.

Over time, I learned some skills to be patient. I learned to not get emotionally triggered by stuff. I learned to observe life. I learned to be present in the moment. I learned to gather the wisdom from situations. I learned to be in my authenticity – doing what is right for me.

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There are still times I seem to lose patience, it occurs when my focus goes onto tomorrow rather than now.

My best advice is this, you wont find patience on the supermarket shelf,

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but you can find it today, right now, by being focused on ‘what is’ going on for you right now. It is that simple.

Patient Tracy xx

Looking at the world through new lenses.

Have you seen the world today?

Was it the same as yesterday?

Will it be the same tomorrow?

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My world had changed, I knew it, but I didn’t realize how much my world had changed.  I recently got my eyes tested and to my shock, I needed distance glasses as well as reading glasses.

Getting a new set of glasses is like a metaphor for life.  Things change, we grow wiser, older and more experienced.   All of a sudden without us realising we begin to see the world differently.

This difference can make us uncomfortable, we have to learn how to see the world from a new perspective.

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Old behaviours don’t work anymore.  New beahviours are required and as many of us know, old habits are hard to change.

Finding out that what you thought you were seeing was in fact not real, can rock your foundations.

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So be open to really seeing the world differently.  Be open to changing the way you see, hear and experience the world.   I am learning to look through a strange set of lenses and see my new world.

Tracy xx

 

Re-entry and reconnection

Walking the wayMy husband and I just have returned from walking the “Way of St James”, an 850klm pilgrimage across Spain for 2 months..  Each day we peacefully put one foot in front of the other and enjoyed the slow pace and simple life that a pilgrimage is.

ReentryNow upon returning home, we are in re-entry and reconnection mode.

Does home feel like home?  Yes it does and no it doesn’t .

As we re-enter our city and commence shopping and doing the things that needed to be done, do we feel comfortable?  No we don’t.  It is faster, noiser, more complex than we have been used to over the last two months.

As we reconnect with family and friends, is it the same or different, are we the same or different?  No we different and yet the same still.

So how do you cope with re-entry?

Slowly, is my answer.  There is an easing back into life.

It takes time. It takes a reconciliation about what you need to take from your journey and incorporate into your life now. Red wine in SpainWe enjoyed drinking chilled red wine in Spain every day, so now our red wine is in the fridge.  We enjoyed drinking coffee everyday, so we have commenced drinking coffee and are easing back into drinking tea.

There is an easing in of new ways of living and an easing into the old ways of living, but now with new perceptions and wisdoms of the old ways.

How long will re-entry or reconnection take?

As long as it takes, by putting one foot in front of the other.

Tracy xx

90 will you get there?

Meet Edna, she turns 90 tomorrow and is my amazing wonderful Aunt and God Mother.  She is a woman who is wise, compassionate, generous loving soul who has opened her heart and house to many people in need.

Aunty Ed and Uncle Al on their wedding day - the going away outfit.

Aunty Ed and Uncle Al on their wedding day – the going away outfit.

Edna opened her house and heart to me when I was in need.  I was separated from my first husband, she took me in and allowed me to live with her and heal.  For that I am extremely grateful.

She has taught me many things, live in the moment, do not worry, enjoy life and reward yourself because you have worked hard for it.  Eat well and drink champagne no matter what the time of day, because it’s good for you.

Christmas shopping with champagne

Christmas shopping with champagne

She is an amazing master porcelain artist and still paints to this day. She has shown me creativity at its best.  Here is some of her beautiful work that I have around my home.

Edna's art

Edna’s art

Over the years we have spent some great times together.  We go to the movies, shows, have great chats about politics and religion.  I take her Christmas shopping every year and we now shop monthly for her heavy things.  Although she has 2 bionic knees she still gets around quite well.

At Mary Poppins

At Mary Poppins

She has demonstrated that love, an open heart and forgiveness can create a wonderful life.  She has had her ups and downs in life as we all do, she is a survivor of cancer and her husband passed away over 25 years ago.

Edna is a role model, open minded, caring and loving and I hope I am half the woman she is.  Much love to you Aunty Ed.

Tracy xx

Ground, ground and ground some more

One of the keys to living a spiritual life, is to ground, ground and ground some more.

Have you ever seen a helium balloon been accidently let go of and get caught by the wind? It goes up and up, blown about by which ever way the wind is blowing.

BalloonOn our spiritual journey of healing and spiritual growth, you will find your vibration is being raised as you become enlightened.  Sometimes it will be raised so high that you might begin to feel like a helium balloon.  When this happens you might feel like your helium balloon has escaped and is floating up and up. This can feel quite disconcerting as you may feel like you have gotten a little out of control.

This is the time when grounding becomes even more vital, because you don’t want your helium balloon to get away.

So how do you ground?PA120008

  • Take your shoes off and walk barefoot on the grass.
  • Touch a tree and feel your roots go down into mother earth.
  • Lie on the ground and feel mother earth’s energies come up and embrace you.
  • Have a shower or a swim.
  • Dig in the garden.
  • Eat some fruit.
  • Eat some root vegetables.
  • Eat some meat.
  • Drink a black coffee.

At times when you feel like a helium balloon, ground, ground and ground some more.

Digging my toes into mother earth.  Tracy xx

Do you follow the breadcrumbs?

Like Hansel and Gretel leaving a trail of breadcrumbs to follow, spirit leaves us a trail or breadcrumbs or messages along our path to follow.

Do you follow the breadcrumbs?

Do you follow the breadcrumbs?

Sometimes something else eats the breadcrumbs and so they appear not to be there. Sometimes we just don’t see the breadcrumbs right under our feet. Sometimes we don’t know that spirit has left us breadcrumbs to follow.

 

How do you follow the breadcrumbs?

Follow your instinctsTrust that spirit is guiding you on your path.

Trust that spirit is leaving you breadcrumbs or messages along the way.

Trust that what you notice is spirit tapping you on the shoulder to say, here is a breadcrumb (message).  It could be a bird, it could be cloud, it could be a song on the radio, it could be the wind.  Notice what you notice…..

 

So what now with the breadcrumbs?

Look for the breadcrumbs, look for the signposts.

thiswayTrust it is a message for you.

Write them down.

Think about what it means to you.

Trust that you will know what it means to you.

They will always be there even if you don’t notice.

 

Enjoy seeing the breadcrumbs along your path.  Tracy xx

Being okay

At each stage of our lives, we change, grow, learn and life becomes new. At each stage we may find that we are not okay being ourselves.  As things change we can become uncomfortable.  Finding peace within changing times in our lives is about finding our “okayness” within our journey and the stage we are at.

happy-monday-13-ways-to-learn-and-growAs a child or maiden / youth we physically change in our bodies.  We become taller and stronger.  We go to school, learn new things and form the foundations of the whole of our lives.  This is a time where we are truly at peace and okay in our lives.  The younger we are the more okay we actually are.

silhouettes-of-parents-and-kidsAs we move into the mother or father stage of our lives, we change and grow again.  We find a mate and focus on becoming a family.   Our bodies may change to give birth to children.  We change roles from child to parent and put into action our beliefs about how children should be raised that are our own and some of our parents beliefs.  During this period in our lives we may be so busy focusing on others, that we may forget to find out whether we are okay or not.

Phenom-Wise-Up-631Lastly we move into the crone or sage stage of our lives.  We continue to change and grow.  Our bodies change into this wise stage.  We hopefully have learned many of the lessons of the past. If we have chosen to, we may have healed many things and are now more peaceful and okay with who we really are.  Leading to being comfortable in our own skin and wisdom.

stages-of-lifeWouldn’t it be wonderful if we could maintain our ‘okayness’ throughout our lives, but we are here to learn and grow so moving in and out of ‘okayness’ is part of learning and growing and a part of our journey.

Being okay Tracy x

Justify or just a fly

As we go through our lives we find that we can justify the situations we find ourselves in.  Explain away our behaviours and choices in a way that suits us.

We can justify why we did something.

We can justify why we made that choice.

We can justify how we are learning and growing.

We can justify how we take responsibility for things.

We can justify why we didn’t do something

Just a flyBut is it really just a fly?

Are we really seeing all perspectives of the situations and choices we make?

Yes, you can see what is going on from your perspective.

Yes, you see things from the other persons perspective.

And yes, you might even see it from an outsiders perspective.

Are they the only perspectives?

Alternate-PerspectivesHave you ever considered the perspective of you interacting with you?

man-looking-in-mirror-300x214Why is it we can say we are going to treat others well, whilst at the same time we treat ourselves poorly and we don’t even realise we are doing it.

We do this when we are in a state of incongurency.  What that means is, there are two of us, that are both trying to do the best for us.  We are in our own way, so we justify what we do. It can take a bit of digging to find both sides of your story.  Try it, its liberating and healing.

Listen, see and hear what is right for the whole of you the next time you hear yourself justifying a choice or behaviour and then think – just a fly – what is right for the whole of me.