Real friends – who are they?

Do you have real friends in your life?
Do you recognize the real friends from the acquaintances?
Do you recognize the friends from the duty relationships?
Do you recognize the friends from the people who just need something from you?

Real friends aren’t around every day, sometimes you don’t see them for days, months, or even years, but when you do see them, it is like as though you saw them yesterday.

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Real friends don’t blame, they don’t try and make you feel guilty. Real friends accept you for you.

Real friends love you, listen to you, laugh with you and you with them.

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Life is simple with real friends.
Relationships flow with real friends.

If you are forcing friendships, feeling guilty in your friendships, feeling unbalanced in your friendships, then these are not real friends. It might be something to think about….

I have a few real friendships that have lasted time and distance.

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I treasure them. Yes I can only count them on 1 hand and I am happy about that, as they are real friends.
Tracy xx

Re-entry and reconnection

Walking the wayMy husband and I just have returned from walking the “Way of St James”, an 850klm pilgrimage across Spain for 2 months..  Each day we peacefully put one foot in front of the other and enjoyed the slow pace and simple life that a pilgrimage is.

ReentryNow upon returning home, we are in re-entry and reconnection mode.

Does home feel like home?  Yes it does and no it doesn’t .

As we re-enter our city and commence shopping and doing the things that needed to be done, do we feel comfortable?  No we don’t.  It is faster, noiser, more complex than we have been used to over the last two months.

As we reconnect with family and friends, is it the same or different, are we the same or different?  No we different and yet the same still.

So how do you cope with re-entry?

Slowly, is my answer.  There is an easing back into life.

It takes time. It takes a reconciliation about what you need to take from your journey and incorporate into your life now. Red wine in SpainWe enjoyed drinking chilled red wine in Spain every day, so now our red wine is in the fridge.  We enjoyed drinking coffee everyday, so we have commenced drinking coffee and are easing back into drinking tea.

There is an easing in of new ways of living and an easing into the old ways of living, but now with new perceptions and wisdoms of the old ways.

How long will re-entry or reconnection take?

As long as it takes, by putting one foot in front of the other.

Tracy xx

Do you love your warts?

Have you ever noticed that there are aspects of ourselves we love and are proud of and then there are parts of ourselves that we don’t love.  Sometimes people might ignore those aspects of themselves they don’t love, where as others might focus solely on those aspects they don’t love.  Neither of those behaviours are useful.

953_10952_a_witch_nose_large_make_up_schminke_clownweis_spezial_effekte_wunden_aufklebewunden_glatzenfolie_hautkleber_wi_grSo how do you love your warts?

self-loveSelf love is the answer, loving all parts of yourself, warts and all.

It is easier said than done.  When we don’t love the whole of ourselves we are limit our lives.   We put self imposed rules on ourselves that we should live by and we limit our true potential.

Why not try this.  Write a list of all the aspects of yourself that you love and then write a list of all the aspects of yourself you don’t love.  Did you know that all those aspects of yourself you don’t love, serve a purpose in your life,  or are a result of things you do love. For example as you get older your body changes, it isn’t like it used to be.  Recognise that your body changing is a result of you stepping into the wisdom phase of your life, free of other responsibilities that occur at a younger age.  There is a self love component to every aspect of you, it is useful to find it.  Do this now against every item on your list that you dont love about yourself.

rules-for-allSelf love is also about not living by other peoples rules, but rather writing your own rules.  Also note if some of things you don’t love about yourself are rules set by others that don’t serve you.  Change those rules now too!

It is about reconciling all parts of yourself and becoming whole.

So love your warts, because they are great parts of you too.

Tracy – warts and all xx

Duelling ego’s

One of the important lessons in life is letting go of your ego.

If you haven’t let go of your ego, you may find it has the potential to bring you down, make you feel inadequate, make you unhappy and have unrealistic expectations.

Duelling ego'sThis week I was privy to sit on the outside of a group and watch duelling ego’s. It was about better, better and best. I saw two opposing people, who felt the need to share what they had done, what was better than the other, and who was the best.

Their ego’s were duelling and this behaviour went on for days. It served no purpose other than to make them feel good and someone else feel less than.

When you let go of your ego you find you will be in a peaceful place.  There are no competitions.  No one to better, it is a place of compassion and authenticity.

just be youTry it. Let go of your ego and just be.  Tracy xx